Random Musings Number One

My two worst enemies in writing for the blog are my procrastination and coming up with some to say which would shock anyone who knows me.  However, in this case life has added its own little curves and kept me from blogging.  Of course with that said I still have no idea what to write.

I have been a little curious about motivations specifically mine versus others.  I am wondering how many if anyone out there has the same motivations.  When reading spanking literature fact, fiction or a combination of both there is most often a situational motive for the spanking.  What I mean is there is a reason for the spanking beyond just the spanking.  For me the act of the spanking be it giving or receiving is enough.  Still I realized for many there is so much more involved from role playing to defined reasons for the punishment.  So if anyone feels like commenting (hint, hint) I would value hearing about your experiences.

Speak of spanking for spanking sake we are in the late fall and just past Shadowlane’s September party and the Crimson Moon party I believe in October.  I have being to fetish events and even fetish clubs both involving play but I have never been to one of these spanking specific events.  I have always wanted to go but for one reason or another have not so far.  Everything I hear seems to indicate that these events are great so I guess I should make a priority to go in the next few years.  My wife and I are monogamous so it is not about spanking or getting spanked by others so much as meeting others in person and see the play and enjoying the free atmosphere that appeals to me.  I will admit that I have had my fantasies about people in the industry and it would be cool to see some of them.

To touch on a topic from the My Bottom Smarts blog, marks.  I am not quite sure how to express my feelings about the marks left after a good bottom smacking.  I mean it is easy to say “Yes! That’s for me.” but the level of the impact so to speak is harder to convey.  To me when I am carrying the marks they are an exciting reminder of the whole experience which I have a pride in as I look at them.  If the marks last longer it is even better.  I have not given that many spankings where there were marks that lasted past the following day but I have done it.  I can remember just seeing the bruising would get me going to the point of distraction.

Two incidents come to mind.  The first involved a rather lengthy erotic but heavy spanking I gave.   The spanking was very sexually charged and progressed to a very firm and through hiding with a thoroughly spanked and redden bum all a glow I was done and leaned over to the recipient’s ear to ask if she had had enough, being sure that she had.  To my surprise and excitement the answer was a breathy almost sobbing “no”.  Now what was I to do but continue as it only seemed right not to let the poor lady down?  I finished the spanking fairly hard covering the entire target but this left some deep bruising.  Skip forward two or three days and I was visiting again, we were talking as she was changing as she had been to the gym and I saw that there were still definite marks.  I asked if she was all right to which she answered she was but she said that she got some looks in the women’s change room.  I was instantly excited.  The second incident was much more recent.  I had to leave town for two weeks for some training related to work.  The night before I left my wife took me over her knee for a long hand spanking followed by the paddle and the hairbrush.  I will not say it was unplanned but I can tell you I was not involved in the planning.  The spanking was very good and left me red sore and heated.  The following day my butt was still tingling and itching as I sat on the plane which while uncomfortable made me smile.  Of course I also had marks and over the next couple of days I would look at them in the mirror in my hotel room thinking about my wife and the spanking with again a sense of pride.